the worst thing about being shy and introverted is that you most of the time come off as cold and arrogant like you think you’re better than everyone else and thats why you don’t talk to people or hang out with them but it’s really the opposite its like you’re so uncomfortable with yourself that you don’t wanna share it with anyone else so you just dont and people think you’re an asshole but you’re actually just really scared
if someone has time to send anon hate then i think they need to get up from their computer and simply avoid the internet for a while. i honestly don’t think that some anon hate senders realise there is another person on the receiving end of their words and i do not think they realise what words can do to people. yes, this is the internet and people are going to do what they like. people shouldn’t have to learn how to deal with anon hate, but unfortunately some do.
i could have dealt with my anon in a much better manner today, and many previous anons in fact. if i can advise anything when dealing with anon hate, it’d be this:
> you can simply ignore anon hate. i’ve done it multiple times when i find random rude comments in my inbox. if one anon starts sending, others could join. delete the message and move on. maybe stop enabling anon if they’re being annoying and continue to harass you.
> try and think with a clear mind. upon reading whatever hateful message you might have been sent, take a step back and close the message. it’s best to not reply straight away while you’re feeling agitated by something silly someone has said. i know for myself whenever i see someone criticising me in some way, i get kind of mad like what gives this person the right to send me this kind of message? when i’m mad i reply just as rudely and the environment continues to get worse.
> reply when you are feeling calmer. think about what you are writing as a response. if you reply with a cool head you might even find a resolution to whatever problem there has been between you and this anon. if you write something equally as snappy or defensive, they’re probably going to come back with something worse. it will literally just build until your anon gets bored/realises that this isn’t worth either of your time.
to people on this website who send messages that are questionable (meaning rude, hostile, purposely sent to put someone down), ask yourself, is it really worth it? think better about what needs your comment and what doesn’t.
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